A lot of people contact me looking for help to improve communication with partners, family members, loved ones, or colleagues. People want to work on handling defensiveness (their own or others’), increasing comfort with intimacy, decreasing blame, asserting themselves, and learning how to give and receive empathy.
I usually hear things like, “I need to work on my communication” or “Our problem is we just don’t communicate.” This can mean so many things. Sometimes the problem is resentment or fear or lack of awareness, at times a little bit of each. Most of us like to connect, and each of us has a particular language to communicate our desire to connect. It’s helpful to learn about our communication style, to become fluent in other peoples’ languages, and to teach them ours.
During our work together, my clients learn about their communications styles, how they came to employ them, and what they’d like to change. I find it deeply gratifying to help people achieve the intimacy, vulnerability, and self-expression they haven’t known how to reach. Relationships are everything!